Just Want to Be Happy

Seems like a reasonable thing to say doesn’t it? After all, who doesn’t want to be happy?

But what if life is not about being happy?

What if the purpose of your job is not about your happiness?

What if the purpose of your marriage is not about your happiness?

What if the nature of your friendships is not about your happiness? 

What if the world keeps on spinning even when you’re not the center of it all?

Here’s what happens. If you live for your happiness alone, everything will spin out of control. 

No one will be good enough for you.

No job will be ever quite right enough for you.

No friend will ever be safe or true enough for you. 

Want to know why?


You are the common denominator in all situations and scenarios when your happiness is the driving force and motivation for everything you do.

The reason why you are the problem is because neither you or I am capable of giving life, meaning, value and purpose – or in a word, happiness – all by ourselves.  

We are dependent upon others in every sense of the word. And when we force everything else exist for our needs, pleasure and happiness, we let them down.  

We are incapable of giving life to the same degree that we demand it.

What we need…

What the world needs now, more than ever, is someone that does not demand life, but gives it.

Who doesn’t force others to serve him, but who lives to serve others.

Who doesn’t ruin the lives of those around him because they aren’t meeting his needs, but who constantly pours himself out to fill the needs of others.

Where have I heard this before?

“And Jesus called them to him and said to them, “You know that those who are considered rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. But it shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” – Mark 10:42-45 (ESV)


Great Resources on Gospel and Marriage (for cheap on Kindle)

Just saw two great books incorporating the Gospel and Marriage.

At the heart of both of them is the understanding that “I” am not the central orbiting reality of neither my life, nor my marriage. Once that concept sinks in, I can then reorient everything in my life and marriage around God – who He is and what He’s done (the gospel) – and discover more resources for forgiveness, patience, empathy and ultimately joy, than I could ever muster up on my own.

Both of these books have been an encouragement and challenge to me, and as is my usual habit, I like to share all good things with others.  If you don’t have them, check them out.


Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage: What if God Designed Marriage to Make us Holy More than to Make us Happy?

Dave Harvey, When Sinners Say I Do?: Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage